Healing Conversations
Empathy. Insight. Wholeness.
therapy doesn't work
People say, 'I've tried therapy, it doesn't work'. And they're right. Therapy doesn't work - you do.
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Counselling is not a pill you take that will make things better. Your therapist is not a wizard with magical powers to change your life. YOU are the agent of change. It is YOUR vulnerability, guts, hard work and intentionality that will create change.
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It's hard. REALLY hard to truly change. Facing the pain you've spent your whole life burying feels counterintuitive. Wrong, even. But as cliche as it sounds, the only way through the pain is through the pain.
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I work with clients who are serious about getting unstuck; people who are done hurting all the time, that are prepared to explore the scary places in order to let the light in.
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If you're ready for life to be different, click the button below to arrange a free 15-min phone call with me.
who am I?
Hi - I'm Deb Hargrove. I'm from New Zealand and live here in Bend, OR with my husband, two boys and three chickens.
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When I was about 18, I found that I could no longer enjoy being by myself because my inner world was screaming at me; any time that I was alone and undistracted, it felt like all I was aware of a panicked pain inside my chest. It tormented me. Determined to find freedom, I embarked on a journey of healing, getting help from wherever I could so that I could be peaceful in my own company. It took more time than I would have liked and more bravery than I knew I possessed, but eventually, I entered a place where I can genuinely say that I have peace.
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My experiences of healing made me passionate about helping others to do the same, and I feel passionately that I cannot ask my clients to travel on an inner journey unless I have (and am) willing to do so myself.​
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I love people, and I'd love to journey with you towards a life that feels more whole, enjoyable, rich and real.
qualifications
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​I trained as a counsellor at the highly regarded Bethlehem Tertiary Institute in Tauranga, New Zealand, and work here in Oregon as a Therapeutic Life Coach (this means that I'm not a licensed counsellor in the State of Oregon and I do not bill insurance).
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I hold a Bachelor of Counselling (with Distinction), a three-year Ministry Diploma, and a current Life Coaching certification. I also have seven years experience as the head writer of a mental health app.
how i work
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I trained in the modalities of Narrative and CBT, and using these, I aim to work with problems in a way that places them outside of the person, reducing stigma, blame and feelings of stuckness. My goal is to highlight golden parts of people's stories that they may never have noticed and strengthen the neural pathways that support self-worth and confidence.​ I will not give you a diagnosis, and I will not write a treatment plan.
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I am gentle and honest. And while I encourage people to be brave in facing their pain, I don't push; I invite people to tip-toe up to the therapeutic window, then tip-toe back when it starts to feel overwhelming.
specialities
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It is my joy to work with any adult wanting and willing to find wholeness, healing and freedom. In saying that, I have a particular desire to help people on a journey of deconstructing from organised religious systems (please see the separate page for more info), as well as couples wanting to build a better relationship.
services
125 US dollars
125 US dollars
900 US dollars
faqs
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Where is your office?
Healing Conversations is located at 745 Mt Washington Dr, Suite 301, Bend.
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Do you bill insurance?
No. I am not licensed as a therapist in the State of Oregon and I do not bill insurance. Please reach out if cost is a barrier, as I can offer a sliding scale of fees.
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How many sessions will I need?
It depends entirely on you. Some people come weekly, others bi-weekly, others once a month, and others simply check in when something comes up in life.
get in touch
745 NW Mt Washington Dr, Suite 301
Bend, OR
541-668-0807
